Stepping Stones of 2013 (Part 2)

Now that I am starting a new chapter in my life, (a new job and not studying the LSAT anymore) what better way to share my second part of stepping-stones of 2013? Here is another five!

6. Trial and error is apart of life, some are great and some will be bitter. But the lesson behind it gives us experience, an improved mindset, compassion towards others who are going through the same struggles and lastly the strength to be better. I realized that you don't have to explain to anyone why you are growing, how you are changing, and how you are finding more meaning through different perspectives. Although it is shocking, something so personal doesn’t need to be explained to anyone. We do not have to justify our choices and feel the need to defend our actions. There is no flaw in our choices because our perception is the only one that matters.

7. Give second chances. Of course there are circumstances where forgiveness may be extremely unfathomed (infidelity, domestic violence (any violence really)). This is easy to say but may be hard to execute.

8.  Spending time alone. My many nights alone in a cafe gave me different dimensions to my (developing) adulthood. I’ve learned to appreciate silence, self-reflection and most importantly be comfortable with being alone. Also, sometimes it’s the time we spend apart from our friends/girlfriends/boyfriends that makes us closer. We realize how much we miss each other’s company and appreciate the importance of our relationship. We not only grow as a couple but an individual as well.

9. Having deeper conversations with my parents. It is very difficult seeing eye-to-eye with your parents when you live in a traditional Asian household. There are rules, boundaries, and emotions that are strictly enforced. However the challenge to speak to them as an adult can only benefit the relationship. It reassures them that they should be confident that they taught you well enough to make great decisions.

10. Be a risk taker. Be Bold! Be Confident! Take risks! I am so glad I am not working in health services anymore because I knew I am destined to something much greater. My writing career is starting off really small, but hopefully with my hardworking skills and my great support system it can be grow to something I can be really proud of in the future.